Do not stand by my grave and weep
I am not there, I do not sleep,
I am a thousand winds that blow,
I am the diamond glints on snow.
Yesterday we made our way, slow and steady to Labouche from the small town of Thukla. It was only a 2-hour trek and I had never anticipated it being such a significant day. We rose early, enjoyed our usual breakfast of Tibetan bread, honey with black tea and set off for the 200m climb to Labouche. Now 200m you would think should be no problem for two fit young things like Matt and I, however 200m at 5000m of altitude is quite another story. Nevertheless, slowly but surely bit-by-bit we chugged our way to the top of Thukla hill and were greeted by a series of memorials and prayer flags for those who have lost their lives in the Himalayas. Monument after monument surrounded us, some as humble as a few pebbles in the sand, others more substantial with engraved stones and plaques bearing messages to loved ones. Just walking around amid the flutter of pray flags and the terrific mountains I was quite simply moved to tears. I hadn’t anticipated or expected it and was in a super fine fenny type mood just minutes before hand but suddenly I couldn’t stand for the tears. The emotion was so overwhelming that I just sat down on the ground and wept until the tears wouldn’t fall anymore. At first I pretended to be doing up my boots but I think the river of tears and sound of sobbing gave the game away. Thankfully Matt came to see me and we had a cuddle, it was after all almost one year to the day that we lost the big man to cancer. I cried and cried for all the wives, sisters, brothers, husbands and children who had ever experienced the misfortune and simple sadness of death and its finality.
I sit hear now on the evening of the 27th of January with a full belly, by a warm fire gently recovering from what was the most exhausting day. A smug wholehearted tiredness oozes through my body and my mind drifts towards dreaming and the comfort of a warm sleeping bag. At 6am we rose and prepared our bags for the final challenge of our trek – Kalar Pattar 5600m. With the thermometer measuring –10, frozen water bottles and ice on the inside of the windows the last thing I wanted to do was to get out of my cozy sleeping bag. It took me a good 15 minutes to muster up the courage to get dressed and ready for what surely this time was to be our ‘last hard day’.
Eventually we left Labouche at about 7.30am, as always feet, hands and nose were cold so I did my best to get the blood flowing. Due to the altitude however anything faster then, well stationary had me in a fit of periodic breathing. My progress to Gorak Shep was painfully slow. As Matt moved on at a reasonable pace I was constantly straining to keep up. The terrain was challenging enough as we had to cross huge sections of glacial moraine, but the breathing was the biggest struggle. I tried my best to focus on the views which were needless to say spectacular.
Eventually after two hours of trudging uphill over boulders and scree, constantly breathless I arrived at Gorak Shep. My head felt thick and my body heavy. Matt was also suffering but we reluctantly managed to get some noodle soup down us, drink some water and mentally prepare ourselves for the 600m climb to the top of Kalar Pattar. Thankfully whilst eating my body seemed to acclimatize somewhat and I was no longer fighting to breath. I found a good rhythm and stuck to a regular (albeit fast) breathing pattern as we began our ascent. With Nuptse and Everest to our right and the Khumbu glacier behind us, one small step at a time we made gentle progress. It was as though someone had pressed the slow motion button on the video recorder because the hill seemed to go on forever, not once did I take my eye of the prize. Matt’s health continued to worry me as he seemed to be getting worse, his body was screaming for a lower altitude and he was faced with the mental battle of mind over matter in order to reach the top. We stuck together.
At 1pm at last we reached the summit and were able to smile again. Without a cloud in the sky we had full views of Everest, the south col, base camp, Pumori, the Tibetan border quite a panorama. 17 days of trekking and more then 10,000m of total ascent, we did it. For me there was never any option, I was always going to make it because this one was in honour of the big man. So often my inspiration I love and miss him and dedicate this day to him and the spirit of adventure.
